“WHY DO THE BORING THING AND SPELL IT ALL OUT?”
When writing or talking, I have a habit of saying too much to most people. I like to lead into things so people can get a full understanding of where I’m coming from. I think understanding the person you are conversing with will tend to lead to a better outlook on not just that person, or yourself, but life in the general sense. Often times, arguments of any magnitude arise when the speaker leaves something out and thus kills the message, or the listener is either distracted and either doesn’t hear, or misinterpret what has been said. At this juncture, if both parties in the conversation can sit back, chill and listen, an explosion will not occur.
If Person-B does not hear Person-A and then questions what Person-A said, it instantly can light the fuse. At this juncture, what usually happens is, Person-B will cite what Person-A said with a slightly different framing and once Person-A denies it, the argument explodes and then there is no recovery. What would help is if Person-B retains calmness, and asks what was said without adding any belief to what was heard. This way, there is the chance Person-A did misspeak, or even better, hear what was initially said and learn something. Maybe Person-A could think and without the fear of looking stupid, can nod, think a bit and say, “Maybe I’m wrong in this.” At that juncture, it would be awesome if Person-B wasn’t a jerk…