VALIDATION

Life is easy, made difficult by people. With so much you wish to do with your one life, you strive for one thing above all else; validation. When you’re born, you simply want what you want as you look upon all things with new eyes. Trying to attain, and obtain those things becomes our goal in life. As we age beyond being toddlers, we do not change much, but do learn we want our guardians to look favorably upon us. We want to be validated.

Of course nuance takes a grand level in all of this, and yet, whether we use the attention gained to validate negative, neutral, or positive behavior, relies solely upon if the people we seek it from, acknowledges the motive behind our actions. A few examples of this would be children who seek attention and nothing more whilst playing with their blocks, trucks, figures, blankets, friends, and such, only to routinely hear their caretakers speak ill of a group of people. At some point, the caretaker will use the young one to live vicariously and that retains the parents desire to be validated.

The child may wish for one thing and the parent another. When the child speaks within the parameters of the parent, the parent then rewards the child with what it wants. Both individuals have been validated, and this becomes the birth of ill-mindedness. As the child ages with no critical thinking and stays within a certain circle of friends befitting the teachings of the…